Honey

[Monkey]

Last week our beautiful bichon Honey was killed in a freak car accident ...she was only 1 and we miss her terribly.... we feel so guilty our house is so quiet and we feel like we will never get over it ...we miss her so much she was just so loving and pretty and cheeky she was a real doll god love her .... I would like another bichon but feel i  dont know when the time will be right and that i  would be dismissing her memory and i dont want to do that .... has anyone else ever lost a bichon if so how do you get over it ? we are just in pieces  Dean & Maria  

[Molly]

I read your post with great sadness and know how awful you must be feeling.- the pain and numbness is quite dreadful. I lost my little Bichon, aged 10 to cancer just over a year ago; and like you, felt very unsure about getting another dog. But I do think that you will want to share your life with another dog. They won't ever replace Honey, and even if it's another Bichon he or she will be very different. Don't worry, you won't ever forget her and the love you shared. Why not think perhaps about giving a home to a Rescued Bichon ? This is what we did, just three months later, to two seven year old Bichons in fact, whom we love to pieces, but we still love the little dog we lost.

[charly]

Maria and Dean, I am so sorry about poor Honey, I lost my little Jessie in a horrific freak accident many years ago !She was in the garden and the children from the house next door were up on the wall calling her she jumped up to them and her collar caught on a branch and she hung herself as I was out at the time and the children were too young to understand what was happening!I thought my world had ended. Nothing could console me,the guilt was terrible i never used to leave her in the garden when i went out but she was happily running amok that day and i was only popping to the shops.Cliche i know,but time is a great healer,Jessie was only one too!Honey would not want you to mourne for too long!A new puppy would not be replacing her , nothing can replace a dog they are all so adoringly individual not to mention BOSSY as is Charly our Bichon who is 5 now and the BOSS of the house and bed (ahem)!Love Jan
 

[bichon hotel]

Our heartfelt condolences go out to you Dean and Maria, and the others who have lost loved ones.

We are fortunate enough to have not experienced the pain that you are doubtlessly still feeling. I appreciate that nothing that we can say will lessen the hurt that you feel. I guess that only time can do that.

My limited experience of bereavement has shown me that although the pain of losing one that you love never abates, it does in time lessen, or at least the pain changes. One day you WILL be able to celebrate the time that you spent with your baby, Honey. You will be able to recall those moments with a tear in your eye rather than through floods of tears.

Our capacity to love is mankind's greatest gift, even though at such times it might feel more like a curse. Love is not a finite quantity, a mother does not dilute her love each time she has a new baby. You will never be able to replace Honey- she was, as we all are unique. Moving on is not forgetting. And to love again is not being unfaithfull.

Only you will know when you are ready to give your love to another. I am willing to bet though that within days of doing so, the little barks reverberating around your home will make you wish that you had done it sooner.

Ultimately you have the power to make yourself (and each other happy).

Best of luck and love